As you scroll through Pinterest, you see page after page of gorgeous, natural-looking couples who seem effortlessly beautiful in front of the camera. They don’t look like they’re posing. They’re simply enjoying time with their groom. And suddenly you think, wait a minute. I. am. so. awkward. in. front. of. cameras. Every time someone points one at me, I freeze. I wonder whether or not I have an extra chin from that angle? And what do I do with my hands!?
…And suddenly, you feel as though you’ll never look as natural as the brides you see online. And the idea of spending time on your wedding day creating portraits with your new husband is suddenly terrifying. So you begin your search, looking for a photographer who will magically create photographs of you that won’t look uncomfortable and overly posed, expressing your desires to cut short “portrait time” and instead focus on candid photographs throughout the day.
Here’s a secret: Beautiful, natural, and authentic wedding photographs come when you schedule more time for portraits, not less.
I know it sounds counter-intutitive, but it’s true. More often than not, the most authentic and genuine photos of a bride and groom alone are taken during the time period scheduled for formal photographs. Because honestly? It’s the only time during your wedding day that the two of you are alone. There are no family members nearby to ask you questions about center pieces. Your friends aren’t around to watch and distract you. It’s just the two of you. Your only task is to love on each other, and it’s my job to document your natural interaction in a pleasing manner.
Of course, there’s more to it than “okayreadylookcuteGO!” but the moral of the story is not to fear portrait time, but to embrace it. The more of it you schedule into your wedding day, the more time you have to relax, have fun, and spend quality time with your new spouse. When you limit your portrait time together, the result is always feeling more rushed, stressed, and uncomfortable. This wonderful alone time becomes just another to-do to check off before rushing off to the next thing, and this mindset is always visible in the resulting image.
So, as you’re planning your wedding day, be sure to schedule the time you need to relax and enjoy the fact that you’re getting married. Not only will your images look more relaxed and genuine, but you’ll have a better experience and look back at that portion of your wedding day with fond, joy-filled memories.